Girls, Friendship and .....

Humorous Dialogs from the movie "When Harry met Sally" to just set the right tone for this post :)

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Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
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Harry Burns: Would you like to have dinner?... Just friends.
Sally Albright: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry Burns: When did I say that?
Sally Albright: On the ride to New York.
Harry Burns: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
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This is not a new post but I am putting some of my previous posts again. Important to mention here that I removed those posts earlier due to serious objections from some of my friends :P. Please don't feel offended, the post is not meant to be offensive. I will certainly try to put my current perspective on this topic soon.

1.75 years ago:
I have been thinking of writing about this topic for a long time and now I am finally doing it. The topic itself intrigues all of us. let me start with the friendship. can we have same level of understanding and friendship with girls as we have with boys without sex coming anywhere in picture? I had been believing that its really possible. But if I take into account my and my friends's experiences I can tell that in intimate friendship 'love' always comes into picture. sometimes its single-sided and then it creates the problem in friendship too. I think that its natural to feel like that as love is the basis of any relationship(not taking professional relationships into consideration). I think its perfectly alright if u love your friend? Then why this problem occurs with girls and not with boys? The only answer seems to be one of the most basic instinct in us called 'sex'. we r so much influenced by this basic attracting force between us that we r afraid of loving the friends which are girls. I will continue the discussion in my next post..

After few months:

After a long time I again got some time to introspect and retrospect about this topic. I still believe that we should not stop loving friends which are girls. Its true that opposite attracts but that should be used positively and should not be hindrance to any relationship. After all these relationships are something which makes our life beautiful. There is some problem with our so called pseudo-modern society too who always looks a budding friendship between a girl and boy suspiciously. I sometimes feel really frustrated about Indian girls as most of them always want to feel important and don't take initiative but that's how the things are here. I don't want to say much about romantic 'love' as this unique feeling is yet not understood by me. What drives love: sexual feelings, qualities of person or something else? As far as I know love is very intense feeling which sometimes overshadow everything including your ego and pride. Its failure of our society as it produces a lot of sexually frustrated people which is a blockage for building up a healthy environment. I hope someday we will have a society in which boys and girls can interact freely without leaving some basic qualities of our culture. Will continue to write about this never ending topic.