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Just to say that I will be more regular on my blog now. So, keep checking.

Girls, Friendship and .....

Humorous Dialogs from the movie "When Harry met Sally" to just set the right tone for this post :)

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Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
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Harry Burns: Would you like to have dinner?... Just friends.
Sally Albright: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry Burns: When did I say that?
Sally Albright: On the ride to New York.
Harry Burns: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
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This is not a new post but I am putting some of my previous posts again. Important to mention here that I removed those posts earlier due to serious objections from some of my friends :P. Please don't feel offended, the post is not meant to be offensive. I will certainly try to put my current perspective on this topic soon.

1.75 years ago:
I have been thinking of writing about this topic for a long time and now I am finally doing it. The topic itself intrigues all of us. let me start with the friendship. can we have same level of understanding and friendship with girls as we have with boys without sex coming anywhere in picture? I had been believing that its really possible. But if I take into account my and my friends's experiences I can tell that in intimate friendship 'love' always comes into picture. sometimes its single-sided and then it creates the problem in friendship too. I think that its natural to feel like that as love is the basis of any relationship(not taking professional relationships into consideration). I think its perfectly alright if u love your friend? Then why this problem occurs with girls and not with boys? The only answer seems to be one of the most basic instinct in us called 'sex'. we r so much influenced by this basic attracting force between us that we r afraid of loving the friends which are girls. I will continue the discussion in my next post..

After few months:

After a long time I again got some time to introspect and retrospect about this topic. I still believe that we should not stop loving friends which are girls. Its true that opposite attracts but that should be used positively and should not be hindrance to any relationship. After all these relationships are something which makes our life beautiful. There is some problem with our so called pseudo-modern society too who always looks a budding friendship between a girl and boy suspiciously. I sometimes feel really frustrated about Indian girls as most of them always want to feel important and don't take initiative but that's how the things are here. I don't want to say much about romantic 'love' as this unique feeling is yet not understood by me. What drives love: sexual feelings, qualities of person or something else? As far as I know love is very intense feeling which sometimes overshadow everything including your ego and pride. Its failure of our society as it produces a lot of sexually frustrated people which is a blockage for building up a healthy environment. I hope someday we will have a society in which boys and girls can interact freely without leaving some basic qualities of our culture. Will continue to write about this never ending topic.

Vacation and the New year

At first happy new year to all the guyz reading my blog. May this new year bring happiness to your life. Sadly this new year also mark the end of a week long vacation for me. After hectic schedule of the school, this vacation was much awaited respite from the usual hectic schedule. If you are my friend then you will be glad to know that I have got pretty good grades in the first term :) . The courses of the next term will mainly focus on the photogrammtery. Currently my research is on object recognition.

This term was full of completely new experiences. The few good things which happened before coming here was that solely because of orkut(critics of orkut, gimme a brk :)), I came into contact with few guyz , who are my good friends now. I was expecting that language will not be a problem in communication unlike in europe. But I realized very soon that most of the research is carried out by asians. Working with a group of multi-nationals people in the group is fun as well as annoying sometimes. Fortunately, all the guyz in my group are so friendly and helping in nature. I was so worried about cold before coming here but later got used to it. But guyz when it reaches -40, the experience can not be described in the words. Its horrible and torturing experience. My goodness, -40 temp lasted for 2 days only. After feeling that now even -14 is not too cold for me :) . Adaptation man! we humans are good at that. I have never discussed sandeep before, he is my lucky room-mate :) . In fact I am so lucky that he is my room-mate. he is a gr8 guy and a good friend.
In the vacation, I had some bitter realizations but this is the way to learn, isnt it? Last but not the least I have started playing squash and I hope to carry on playing. Sorry to say that I am not getting enough time to play guitar. I still love my guitar and I hope that I will start making love with her pretty soon :) .

Back to Work!

I wanted to write about the 1 year I spent in oracle but there is so much to write that I can not get enough time for that. I want to thank again my colleagues 'khalil', 'maithily' & 'shylaja' for their helping nature. After (non)working experience in oracle, I was really afraid of going for academics again. It seems amusing to me that my friends from iitk think that it should not be hard for me but my friends from oracle think completely otherwise. Sometimes I wonder what is my real face: The one, my iitk friends know or the one, oraclites now. I am trying to make a balance between between fun and work. But for now balance is in favor of studies & work. Initially it was very difficult to sit for long and study, solve assignments etc. But I am getting better with time. I like the work given by my guide and courses are not boring. Moreover people in my research group are friendly and helpful. I feel so lucky that I have 'anna'(she is canadian:) ) as a pretty good friend in my group. She is so friendly and so nice that she can make anybody friends in few minutes. Thanks anna! So me back to work again after a long gap and despite hectic schedule I like it here. Its time to get serious about my career.

Me, Snow & Calgary

Welcoming New Phase of My Life at Calgary

I was thinking about posting my experiences in Calgary for a long time and I am glad that I am doing it now. I am sorry about being inconsistent in updating my blog. I hope that now I won't break this habit of writting the blog. For those who dont know, I left Oracle after working there for one year, and joined masters program in geomatics engineering at University of Calgary. This is the link of my research group http://dprg.geomatics.ucalgary.ca/. lemme answer a simple question: how difficult is studying, after working for a year? Its difficult in monetary terms but feels good if you are really interested in the field you have chosen. But it brings again a lot of uncertainty and tension in life. After tasting the chill life of a MNC like oracle it is little bit difficult to again face challenging environment( Assgnments bahuuu....:) ) of an academic institution. Getting good food is also a major concern as unfortunately we indians dont get cheap food like chinese get in foreign land. Enough of this I am going to tell something about calgary now. Calgary is the largest city in the province of Alberta, Canada. Calgary is the third largest civic municipality, by population, in Canada: Courtesy Wikipedia. This place has awesome natural beauty. Shootings for movies like Tum Bin, Koi Mil Gaya, Dus etc. took place here. Unlike europe the houses are well seperated here, each one having a well maintained lawn.
I am trying to work on the camera calibration but unbale to figure out the problem with the software. I have 2 assignments too and deadlines are coming. Getting day by day crazy about songs of avril lavigne and I feel I love her:). But currently listening 'yara sili sili' by legendary lata. I will try to figure out the problem with images and you ppl enjoy and take care.


Down Town, Calgary & Banf, Calgary

To be emotional or not?

Some ppl say emotions are main thing in life whereas others say that being emotional is a hindrance to growth and mental peace. Even some ppl consider it as weakness. So what r pros and cons of being emotional or otherwise? What I think is that being emotional is very necessary if u want to enjoy the life to its fullest. But dont let ur emotion fool u. sometimes they r very deceiving and u get trapped in them. Be emotional but dont be blind. Actually it happens a lot of times that emotions blur our vision and we become biased. Emotions are like a spell when u r into it u cant know that its a spell and when u come out of it then it seems that u were fool. Sometimes we cant help it and we have to flow with emotions. Being emotional brings a major disadvantage that u get hurted very easily and that can steal ur mental peace. Best thing seems that keep ur expectations low but dont ignore other ppl's expectations frm u. I always want to achive proper balance between emotions and mind. I hope I will succeed someday and till that day my friends plz forgive me if I have ever hurted you. Thats all for now. Keep visiting and keep posting ur comments on my blog.